Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child. The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his mother asked him what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, "Nothing, I just helped him cry."
Personal note: One of the hardest decisions a CareGiver has to make is to differentiate between "doing" and just "being there." There are times when it's preferable to allow someone to struggle with something rather than to do it for them. In the midst of the struggle, a person who is dealing with an increasing loss of control over their lives can have, at least, a semblance of control over something. This can immeasurably bolster a person's self worth. Sometimes it's best to let patience reign, even though a CareGiver can "do" quicker and easier, and just "be there."   Just in case..... Jeff