My husband was reluctant to go to daycare at the first mention of it. After visiting several in the nearby areas, I decided that one of them was the most suitable for him. The director of the program allowed both of us visit for a whole day. We participated with the others from a light breakfast, then the excercise session, then we had lunch. After lunch we had a trivia game, then another session which I can't remember.
He felt he enjoyed himself, but wasn't really convinced it was for him. The director told us that it takes about two weeks to get comfortable with the group, so he went for the two week. By then, he felt more comfortable and was willing to go for two days a week. Now and then, he tells me he wishes he didn't have to go. I asked him to do it for me, because it allowed me to take care of things I couldn't do if I he stayed home with me -- he is wheelchair bound and also has some dementia. He now has two new friends at the center.
The center is more geared for senior adults who are frail, but not bedridden. The daycare does give me the respite which I really need. During the winter, there were several days when the center was closed due to snow. With a couple of weeks of this, I was really beginning to feel tired and drained. Even with two days a week, it helps. Three days would be even better, but we could afford only two days.
You mentioned that your PWP is now in the nursing home, but you wanted to know how people persuaded their PWP into accepting daycare. Dave feels that my taking care of him is too much for me and he would rather be put into the nursing home. I know the time will come when I will no longer be able to care for him myself, but I feel it's better if I can postpone it as long as I can. I know that if he could compare between living at home and the nursing home, home would be more stimulating. We are still able to go shopping, go out for dinner, movies or whatever.